I Love You.
Even though You broke up with me and I agreed to walk with You as a friend for a while, I believed that I would be back. I had such great faith that I would return and be with You forever. I took one of my English textbooks, the Faerie Queene, and wrote a message on the inside cover. I have long forgotten the exact words I used. May be proof for when I return that my Love is True or something. Then I placed it on Your bookshelf without You knowing about it.
My intention was that when I finally proposed and we became engaged that I would retrieve the Faerie Queene and read You the words I had written. More specifically, I wanted be that knight in Book I, Redcrosse to You, my Una. Moreover I wanted to out do him and thereby win Your hand and trust. Ironically, it seems that over the 6-7 years we were apart, I faced the exact same trials. Of illusions of Your unfaithfulness. False rejection. Tricks to try and torture me into being unfaithful to You. I was not unfaithful.
Every time You rejected me, I was hurt. My self-esteem crushed. I asked forgiveness. You forgave then bite down hard. Tore my heart in shreds.
You said You found the perfect guy. I believed You. Went away dejected. Tried stopping the emotions that wanted to give You joy. Wandered. Wondered if some other I should Love. Each time I got close to another, You were there in those emotions drawing me back to You.
So I’d try again. You said You and Your guy were talking about having children. That line devastated me. It made me lose any idea of obligation. Only Love remained. Like Redcrosse, I was spiritually weakened.
By the time I called You in 2005, I was burned out. In need of kindness. But I rushed forward, ignoring God’s pleas to wait and prepare. Once in the conversation, everything was perfect for reuniting. Except my unprepared spirit fixated upon the one disturbing element of the whole pleasant and enthusiastic conversation. Like Redcrosse, I had come to distrust You. Distrust my own feeling for You. I left the conversation saying I would call back. However, I locked my Love away and proceeded on with my life in anger at what I perceived was manipulation and the wasted years staying single for You.
Like Redcrosse, I created a substitute in a Duessa. Sansjoy. Decision made with cold rationalization. Sansloy. Like Redcrosse, I was unfaithful to You and pledged my life to another. Sansfoy.
So similar is the story of Recrosse and Una to our own, I wonder if God will not make things work to complete our story like theirs. The conclusion of Book I brings Redcrosse and Una together where Redcrosse confesses his sin to Una and she forgives him. They are engaged. It sounds romantic. However, our story is severely handicapped by some things not found in Book I.
Your extreme jealousy would not permit even the smallest infraction of faithfulness. How could You forgive me to the point of accepting my Love for You as genuine?
Your inflexibility does not allow Your mind and heart to change so easily through use of reasoning.
Your defense mechanism, denial, and Your use of anger to protect Yourself from displaying emotions of fear and sadness, effectively limit any access to the needed acceptance of me in Your presence.
Your fear of rejection will attempt to reject me first.
Your feelings of unworthiness will make You suspect ulterior motives for my approach.
The much needed face-to-face required for this sort of reconciliation is not easily gained without winning Your family and friends for support first.
Lastly, I am happily married. I will not break my commitment to my wife, least I demonstrate my existing Love for her foolish. Thereby proving my Love for You equally absurd.
The one thing that seems more than coincidence is who Una is allegorically representing. Truth! Yes, it is You. Will God let this lie down and die? I cannot pretend to know.
Today I am at peace. Seeing the insurmountable barriers that would need to crossed now compared to 9 years ago, would take multiple miracles from Christ. If they are never overcome by God, then I will remain the dishonorable fool.
Yet I will be Christ’s fool and still say I Love You.